000006 - are you happy?
there's a song by sting called if you love somebody set them free. when i first heard this song title i never really understood what it meant. i always thought if you truly loved somebody, wouldn't you want to that person to be next to you and by your side always?
how many times have you heard the story (or perhaps experienced first hand yourself) about falling for one of your best friend? someone who if you've even had the guts to tell them how you really felt about them that could not only jeopardise the friendship bond you've built all these years but also loose this best friend because you've complicated and changed what s/he had thought your relationship was about. would it hurt you more to hear how happy your friend is with their current girl/boyfriend or the fact that both you and your best friend could be hurt in the process if you went into a more than plutonic relationship? i think i'd rather see my friend being happy than ever putting our friendship at risk and letting her know what my true feelings might be...
i think what the song really means is that no matter how much you think you love or care about someone, you can never possess them. because love isn't about controlling or keeping someone. if you set them free and them come back to you, then that is true love. but in the end, i think it's about wishing the person you love true happiness; with or without you is inconsequencial.
on a related note, i wish i could convey this message to this friend of mine. she's been really down lately, to the point of suicidal. a year ago, i was able to convince her that the situation wasn't as bleak and gloomy as she had imagined but this time i think it's different. i feel really helpless and in a way sad that what seems to me such a bright and wonderful person can be so obsessed with someone who's obviously hurt her so much that she would in turn hurt herself to perhaps win him back or just to get his attention. as a friend, i feel like i should do more to help but i know deep down, no one can help her but herself.
on a lighter note, i did finally get that pin-up fan-art stuff scanned and uploaded thanks to my old pc.
i also just started reading the 5th Harry Potter novel: The Order of the Phoenix. Really great stuff.
how many times have you heard the story (or perhaps experienced first hand yourself) about falling for one of your best friend? someone who if you've even had the guts to tell them how you really felt about them that could not only jeopardise the friendship bond you've built all these years but also loose this best friend because you've complicated and changed what s/he had thought your relationship was about. would it hurt you more to hear how happy your friend is with their current girl/boyfriend or the fact that both you and your best friend could be hurt in the process if you went into a more than plutonic relationship? i think i'd rather see my friend being happy than ever putting our friendship at risk and letting her know what my true feelings might be...
i think what the song really means is that no matter how much you think you love or care about someone, you can never possess them. because love isn't about controlling or keeping someone. if you set them free and them come back to you, then that is true love. but in the end, i think it's about wishing the person you love true happiness; with or without you is inconsequencial.
on a related note, i wish i could convey this message to this friend of mine. she's been really down lately, to the point of suicidal. a year ago, i was able to convince her that the situation wasn't as bleak and gloomy as she had imagined but this time i think it's different. i feel really helpless and in a way sad that what seems to me such a bright and wonderful person can be so obsessed with someone who's obviously hurt her so much that she would in turn hurt herself to perhaps win him back or just to get his attention. as a friend, i feel like i should do more to help but i know deep down, no one can help her but herself.
on a lighter note, i did finally get that pin-up fan-art stuff scanned and uploaded thanks to my old pc.
i also just started reading the 5th Harry Potter novel: The Order of the Phoenix. Really great stuff.
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